Where you might be right now
You are brilliant at what you do, and the people around you see it. You have invested years in your education, your experience and your own growth, and yet money continues to stress you out in ways that don't match the capable woman you are.
Financial security
Money worries you more than you would like to admit. You are never quite sure whether your income is enough, it may change from month to month, and paying your bills makes you anxious. One unexpected expense could throw off your finances, and relying heavily on a single source of income or a single person leaves you without confidence about your financial future.
Being paid for the value you bring
You feel underpaid for the work you do, and your income falls short of your skills and your contribution. Perhaps you have taken on more responsibility without receiving more pay, and the thought of asking for a raise stresses you out, or you asked and were still overlooked. If you own a business, you may charge too little and then give your clients far more than they paid for. Underneath it all, you feel under-recognized and taken for granted.
Financial freedom and choice
Money limits the choices available to you. You may be staying in a job or a relationship because you need the income, and you keep putting off opportunities you cannot yet afford to pursue. You may need someone else's income or approval before you make important decisions. You know exactly what you want to do, and changing your situation feels like it would cost too much.
Managing and growing your money
You may avoid looking at your accounts, and financial decisions overwhelm you. You are unsure how much to save or where to begin investing. You earn money, and you still have no clear plan or simple system for managing and growing it. You worry about making the wrong decision, and part of you does not feel ready to manage larger amounts of money.
Contribution and impact
You cannot support your family as much as you would like, and you limit how much you give to the people and causes you care about. You may help others even when it leaves you financially stretched. The impact you want to make is far greater than your current finances allow, and you long to live more generously.
There's nothing wrong with you. Your nervous system learned long ago what money meant and what it might cost you, and it has been keeping you inside the range it recognizes as safe ever since.
Why this keeps happening
Even though you consciously forgot the moments when you first learned what money meant in your family, your nervous system didn't. Your body didn't. And without your permission, it gets triggered every time you try to earn, receive, manage or grow more than the women who raised you.
Your nervous system has one job above all others, which is keeping you safe. Somewhere along the way it linked money with danger, whether that danger was conflict at home or the shame of not having enough. So when you go to ask for the raise or set a higher fee, your body reads that moment as a threat and pulls you back to what it knows.
That is why knowing your worth has not been enough to make you ask for it. How many times have you drafted the email requesting a raise and never sent it, or raised your fee only to quietly lower it again before anyone saw it?
For fourteen years I worked as a psychotherapist, and talk therapy helped my clients understand their patterns with remarkable clarity. Still, the charge stored in their bodies kept running their choices. When I was introduced to EFT tapping, I found a reliable way to help them release it.
In the work I do with women, we go to the place where the pattern lives. We name the fear and the memory underneath it exactly as they are, and we tap until your nervous system releases the negative neuro-association it has been carrying around money. When that association changes, your relationship with money changes with it.
The raise you could not bring yourself to request becomes a conversation you lead with confidence.
The support you used to deflect becomes something you receive with gratitude.
The accounts you avoided become a place where you make clear, grounded decisions.
The money you earn begins to grow, since you feel safe enough to plan for it.
