Helen, 

Happy May.

I usually take the last week of every month off. I called this one my financial self-care week.

This past week was intense.

Lots of processing. Lots of integrating. Lots of tears.

But something important emerged from slowing down enough to really listen to myself.

I began identifying the things that trigger  “Scarcity Sarah" I part I mentioned two weeks ago.

She’s the part of me that becomes activated around money.

For her, it can be:

• receiving a bill

• large amounts of money leaving my account

• someone paying me late

• looking at my bank account and wondering if I’ll have enough three months from now

Her entire orientation is fear.

Not enough.
Not safe enough.
Not secure enough.

And what became very clear to me is this:

Our beliefs about money can be reprogrammed.

Our identities can be reprogrammed.

But first, we have to become aware of the patterns running automatically beneath the surface.

So during my week off, I slowed everything down enough to track what was actually happening inside me.

What triggered her.
What stories immediately surfaced.
What sensations showed up in my body.

Because what happens for so many of us is this:

You look at your bank account and cortisol floods your system.

You think about money and your body activates.

You talk about money and your body activates.

The activation becomes so constant that eventually it feels normal.

You stop recognizing that your nervous system is reacting at all.

So I started creating tapping scripts and regulation practices specifically for Scarcity Sarah.

Not to shame her.
Not to get rid of her.

But to help her feel safe enough to stop reacting to every money situation as if it were a threat.

And this process will continue until my nervous system no longer automatically associates money with danger.

Honestly, this is one of the first things I help women do in my work:

Uncouple financial circumstances from nervous system activation.

Because until that happens, it’s very difficult to make grounded decisions about money.

And then another question emerged:

If I no longer want to be Scarcity Sarah… who do I want to become?

The answer surprised me.

Not “Abundant Abby.” That felt too far away. Too performative. Too disconnected from where I actually am.

But “Sufficiently Susan”?

That felt believable.

That felt embodied.

The shift from Scarcity Sarah to Sufficiently Susan feels possible.

So I began mapping:

• What would Sufficiently Susan believe about herself?

• What would she believe about other people?

• What would she believe about life?

And then the deeper question:

What skills and capacities would I need to develop in order to become her?

Because identity transformation is not just mindset work.

It requires capacity.

For me, that looks like:

• becoming more visible

• talking more openly about my work

• inviting people into my world

• allowing myself to sell

Because ultimately, if people never enter my world deeply enough to work with me, they don’t experience the transformation I know is possible for them.

So that was my week off.

Tracking myself.
Listening deeply.
Identifying patterns.
Creating a repeatable process for transformation.

It was hard.

But it felt necessary.

And honestly, I think this kind of work changes everything.

Because most women are trying to change their financial reality without first understanding the identity and nervous system patterns currently shaping it. 

Most women are moving through money from one of three nervous system identities:

• Scarcity Sarah who believes:
  “There isn’t enough. I’m not safe.”
• Sufficiency Susan who believes:
  “There is enough for the next step.”
• Abundance Abby who believes:
  “There is more available, and I can create it.”

And this has nothing to do with intelligence.

It has everything to do with:

• nervous system regulation
• identity
• capacity
• and the meaning you’ve learned to assign to money

Each identity creates different patterns around:

• decision-making
• visibility
• receiving
• earning
• self-trust
• and growth

And what became very clear to me is this:

Most women are trying to force themselves into Abundance Abby while their nervous system is still operating as Scarcity Sarah.

That rarely works.

Transformation happens progressively.

Safety first.
Then capacity.
Then expansion.

✦ THIS WEEK’S PRACTICE ✦

Locate yourself.

Which version of you is currently relating to money?

Scarcity Sarah?
Sufficiency Susan?
Or Abundance Abby?

And instead of judging yourself—
simply notice the patterns, assumptions, behaviors, and emotional responses that emerge from that identity.

→ [Map Your Idenity]

✦ DEEPER WORK ✦

If you want to identify the money triggers activating your nervous system:

→ Download the Money Triggers Guide

✦ WORK WITH ME ✦

If you’re ready to go beyond awareness—and start changing your relationship with money in a deeper, supported way…

I have courses and resources designed to help you do exactly that.

✦Explore my shop✦

https://helenorombi.coachesconsole.com/products

And if you’re navigating something specific around money right now and want support—
someone to actually walk this with you…

→ Book a call with me
[https://helenorombi.coachesconsole.com/calendar/60-minute-clarity-session]