Dear SisterQueen, Helen

We upgrade our wardrobe, cars, our seats on a plane or train, our uber ride, our homes, some upgrade their partners etc but have you ever thought of upgrading YOU? Your self-concept, your identity, your story of YOU, who you are, what you believe is or isn't possible for you.

My Story:

In 2021, after 14 years as a psychotherapist, I decided I wanted to transition into becoming a coach. Despite taking various courses and programs, I experienced crippling self-doubt and felt like a huge imposter. It wasn’t until I enrolled in one of Claire Zammit’s programs that I heard about the idea of upgrading your identity. I realized I needed to become the woman who could be a coach; I needed to upgrade my self-concept.

One of my biggest identity transformations was shifting from the self-concepts of "I am not enough and I am powerless" to "I am capable of growing myself to become a world-class coach & business woman and I have the power to do that because I am a lifelong learner." This shift in how I saw myself not just on a conceptual level but on an embodied level has been fundamental in achieving my goals and working towards my dreams. 

Why an Identity Upgrade?

According to Robert Dilts' Logical Levels of Change, transforming at the level of identity is the most powerful and lasting form of change. Here’s how it works:

Dilts' Logical Levels of Change:

  1. Environment: Where you are and your surroundings. Change here is often temporary without deeper transformation.
  2. Behavior: What you do, your actions. While important, behavior change alone may not be sustainable without addressing underlying levels.
  3. Capabilities: Your skills and abilities. Enhancing your capabilities is crucial, but skills alone won't drive long-term change.
  4. Beliefs and Values: Why you do what you do, your motivations. Shifting your beliefs and values can significantly impact your actions and results.
  5. Identity: Who you are, your self-concept. Transforming your identity creates the foundation for sustainable change across all other levels.
  6. Spirituality: Your connection to a larger system or purpose. This level provides a sense of meaning and direction in life.

Why Focus on Identity?

  1. Sustainable Change: Changes made at the identity level are more permanent, influencing your beliefs, capabilities, behaviors, and environment.
  2. Achieve Your Goals: When you see yourself as the person who can achieve your goals, your actions and decisions reflect that belief, bringing you closer to your dreams.
  3. Aligned Actions: Your new identity shapes your daily habits and actions, ensuring they align with your long-term goals.
  4. Boosted Confidence: An upgraded identity builds self-confidence, empowering you to take on challenges and seize opportunities.

How to Start Your Identity Upgrade:

Visualize Your Ideal Self on a sensory level: What is your goal or desire? Who do you need to become in order to achieve that goal? What does your upgraded identity look like, feel  like, taste like, smell like, sound like?

Adopt New Beliefs/Story of you: What is the new story of you that you have to embrace?

Take Consistent Action: Align your actions with your new identity every day until it becomes a habit.

I'll end with a quote..

Becoming the best version of yourself requires you to continuously edit your beliefs and to upgrade and expand your identity…..Your identity emerges out of your habits..Your habits are how you embody your identity..The more you repeat behavior the more you reinforce the identity associated with that behavior.. Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.. Each habit not only gets results but also teaches you something far more important: to trust yourself..You start to believe you can accomplish things. When the votes mount up and the evidence begin to change, the story you tell yourself begins to change as well

  James Clear Atomic Habits

Remember, true change starts from within. Upgrade your identity, and watch your life transform!

Thank you for being a part of my community. 

I'm excited to see you unlock your potential and achieve your dreams.

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Be magnificent SisterQueen!

Xoxo

Dr. Helena, the QueenMaker 

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My reading and listening list this week

  1. We should all be millionaires by Rachel Rodgers
  2. Plan your year like a millionaire- audible originals by Rachel Rodgers
  3. Million-Dollar Habit by Rachel Rodgers - finished this last week.
  4. The Quiet life in 7 steps- audible originals by Susan Cain
  5. Spirit Means Business by Alan Cohen
  6. A course in Miracles Made Easy by Alan Cohen
  7. Atomic Habits by James Clear- rereading this...