Greetings SisterQueen Helen

I hope you have been keep well!

 

This past week, one of my coaching clients who was one of my clients when I was a psychotherapist said- Helen I'd love to refer people to you but I don't know how to tell people about what you do. 

That was great feedback for me because for the most part everyone knows what a psychotherapist does but coaching is a relatively new field right?

 

Without getting into the specific my mission and TRUE NORTH as a healer and woman-centered empowerment and transformation business, money and life coach, is really about creating growth containers where I facilitate healing, growth and transformation. I help women access the power to BECOME their most authentic, audacious, powerful, magnificent versions of themselves who is capable of creating tangible outcomes in their outer lives that reflect their highest potentials. I do this in very specific ways and I will share this in the coming weeks.

 

Milton Erickson, a famous Psychotherapist once said “ the problem is not the problem, the problem is your inability to access the self that can handle the problem.” This quote sums up what I do perfectly. 

 

We all have a powerful Self but she’s not always the one running the show. Sometimes it's our exiles, managers and firefighters. Life always offers us what Richard Schwartz, creator of Internal Family System (IFS), calls Afking Growth Opportunities (AGO). These are the challenges and disruptions that we experience in our lives that trigger and stress us out. However, there is a self that can handle life’s AGOs. 

 

Here are the 8Cs and 5Ps IFS qualities of the self- Calmness, Curiosity, Clarity, Compassion, Confidence, Courage, Creativity, Connectedness, Patience, Perspective, Presence, Playfulness, Persistence. The good news is, accessing that Core Self, is a learnable skill. And for those perfectionists out there ( I am a recovering perfectionist myself)  it's impossible to stay in Self the whole time, however you become quick at recognizing when you are not in Self.

 

So any area or areas that you currently feel stuck in or you are not where you want to be, chances are the part of you that is handling that part of your life is not your Core Self but exiles, managers and firefighters. She has a story about who you are, what is or isn't possible for you in that particular domain of your life that has been keeping you stuck.

 

One of the areas of my life that is not where I want it to be has been my finances (FYI I have a coaching program for that-see below). The self that had been handling this area had stories such as I am not enough, that I am powerless etc. Those stories never made sense to my conscious mind because that wasn't true in other domains of my life. 

 

This confusion is what my mentor Claire Zammit calls the power paradox where on the one hand you are able to create the change you desire in parts of your life yet feel completely powerless in other areas.

 

When I got curious about that part of me- she was the part of me that grew up in a country where the average annual income is $1000 and a society where women don't have a lot of power and agency to create the changes they desire because of patriarchy, colonialism, poverty etc

Seen from this perspective, it makes a lot of sense that this part of me has that story about herself but that is NOT THE TRUTH of who I am. 

 

We all have stories about who we are that were created to make sense of our experiences in our childhood, family of origins, past experiences, culture etc. Most of the original experiences and stories were created when we were really young and didn't have the capacity for complex reasoning. The events that created these stories may have long been forgotten, often submerged in the unconscious part of us as exiles and have been running us through our managers and firefighters without us being aware of them.

Some of us who are psychologically savvy and have done some of our inner work are aware of these parts of us and have done some healing work around it.

 

However, healing is only part of the process, a very essential part of the process. What is really required to make lasting change in any area that you feel stuck in  is an identity transformation-BECOMING the self that is aligned with the truth of who you are and creating from this version of yourself.

 

The best metaphor for this kind of change is like the irreversible transformation a caterpillar goes through to become a butterfly. This is a change in your identity- who you believe you are and what is possible for you. 

SisterQueen, there is a butterfly inside of you that wants to soar!  

There is greatness and magnificence in you and GREATNESS IS GROWN!

 

 

  • This growth does require the courage to make your exiles, managers, firefighters and the stories they hold conscious- awaken
  • Heal them by releasing the energy of those stories from your body and integrating them to your core self.
  • Transform them by updating the templates/stories they hold.
  • Embody a new story about who you are and what is possible for you. 
  • Map out a pathway to your desires and take inspired action from this new template. 

 

 

Lucky for you that's where I come in

  •  With my background as an integrative, applied positive psychology psychotherapist and someone who is actively doing her inner work;  I can help you with making your exiles, managers and firefighters conscious in the areas that you are stuck-This doesn't have to take years. 🙂
  • With my expertise as an Emotional Freedom Technique EFT tapping practitioner I can help you release the energies of these exiles, managers and firefighters  from your body, heal them and integrate them to your core self. 
  • With my expertise as a woman centered empowerment and transformation business, money and life coach I can help with the identity transformation required to make that lasting change and step into your most audacious life.

 

 My mission is to help you BECOME the magnificent Queen you were born to be.

 

BE MAGNIFICENT SisterQueen

Xoxo

Dr. Helena, QueenMaker and midwife of women’s unmanifested potentials

 

Ps ready to upgrade your financial identity and Becoming a wealth worthy woman? See this short video that gives you an orientation of the program https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rGMPXf2wAm8

Then

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