Helen,

Years ago, I was listening to Tony Robbins speak at an event when he said something that puzzled me:

“I made the man that I am.”

I remember thinking, What does that even mean?

At the time, I was still working predominately as a psychotherapist but slowly transitioning into coaching. Much of the work in psychotherapy focused on helping people restore functionality. Someone experiencing depression could begin functioning again. Someone struggling with anxiety could feel calmer. Someone carrying trauma could process what had happened and experience greater emotional freedom.

Tony was describing something else.

He was talking about intentionally becoming a more expanded version of himself.

The idea felt audacious. It was also incredibly intriguing.

Could we participate in creating who we become?

Could we choose an identity that expressed more of our potential, then develop the capacities to live as that woman?

I didn’t know it then, but those questions would eventually lead me to the work of Dr. Claire Zammit and her approach to transformational change for women.

Claire describes a developmental threshold that many accomplished women eventually reach.

The qualities that helped us succeed begin to reach their limits.

We know how to work hard. We can carry enormous responsibility. We know how to persist, solve problems and make things happen. We’ve learned to push through discomfort and produce results through effort and willpower.

Those capacities may have helped us create impressive lives.

They can also become the only way we know how to create.

I reached that threshold in my own business last year.

It was one of the most productive and successful years I had experienced. I created and facilitated programs, supported clients, ran groups and kept producing.

By the end of the year, I was exhausted.

When I imagined creating more money through that same level of output, something in me said, I cannot keep doing this.

At the beginning of this year, I chose ease as my word for the year.

I wanted spaciousness. I wanted freedom. I wanted to create in a way that honored my body and my capacity.

So far, the year has felt nothing like ease.

Looking back, I can see that ease required a much deeper transformation than I had anticipated.

I could not create a new experience of wealth while remaining completely organized around the identity that created the old one.

Dr. Claire Zammit calls that old identity the Achiever identity.

The Achiever knows how to produce through effort. She relies heavily on her own strength. She carries more than her share. She may override her body, hold herself to impossible standards and believe she should already know how to solve every problem.

She is incredibly capable.

She is also tired.

This year, that version of me has been disintegrating.

And disintegration is rarely graceful.

The caterpillar does not become a butterfly by growing better legs. Its familiar form dissolves so that another form can emerge.

I have been learning to collaborate with Spirit. I have been allowing other people to support me. I am releasing hyper-responsibility and practicing doing things imperfectly. I am paying closer attention to my rhythms, my body and my real capacity.

I am developing a different relationship with receiving.

I am also learning that ease does not mean withdrawing from my ambition. Ease changes the internal place from which I create.

Claire calls the emerging identity the Creator identity.

In my work, I call her the Wealth-Creating Woman.

The Wealth-Creating Woman knows that her ability to create wealth includes far more than her ability to work hard.

She can receive support. She collaborates. She allows an idea to develop without forcing it into immediate production. She creates structures that support her life. She pays attention to what her body is communicating. She develops the capacity to earn, receive, hold, manage and grow wealth without abandoning herself in the process.

Her wealth creates greater spaciousness, choice and contribution.

Becoming this woman involves more than changing a few habits.

The old identity begins to disintegrate.

The new identity starts to emerge.

Then she needs the support, practice and lived experience that allow this identity to stabilize.

That middle space can feel disorienting. You may no longer be willing to create through exhaustion, yet the new way of creating has not become familiar. The strategies that once produced results may feel unsustainable. The capacities required for your next chapter are still developing.

This threshold does not mean you have lost your ambition or your ability to create. It may mean that a more expansive identity is ready to emerge.

This is the deeper work I support women to do.

I create spaces where a woman can identify the financial patterns that have been organizing her life, rewire the responses that keep those patterns in place and begin becoming the Wealth-Creating Woman she senses within herself.

It is a space where she can experiment, expand and practice receiving support.

Over time, ease becomes less of an idea and more of a way she creates.

And perhaps that is what Tony meant all those years ago.

We can participate in creating the women we become.

What part of your current way of creating success or money feels as though it has reached its limit?

Hit reply and tell me. I would love to hear what is beginning to emerge for you.

Standing for your greatness,

Helen

P.S. A few months ago, I shared that I was planning a workshop called Rewire Your Financial Worry. Then life had me flat on my back, and the workshop had to wait.

I’m now planning to offer it live on Thursday, October 1 at 12:00 p.m. Eastern.

Creating wealth with greater ease begins with identifying and rewiring the stress patterns shaping how you think, feel, react and relate to money. As those patterns change, you expand your nervous system’s capacity for greater financial ease.

More information is coming later this week.

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