Helen

This year has been a year of expansion for me — spiritually, emotionally, mentally and in my work.
And the thing that has supported my expansion the most has been consistently releasing what no longer serves me, especially the inner patterns and old identities that quietly shape the way we show up. This is the work I do with women and I am always my own guinea pig in that I try everything on me first.

The last couple of weeks, I've been going inward to unburden some of the parts of me that have been carrying more than their share.
It became clear that the next level of my expansion required a deeper clearing inside my system. What unfolded was some of the most profound Internal Family Systems (IFS) work I’ve done in years.

✨ Some of The Parts Who Came Forward

She imagines everything that could go wrong — because she learned to worry the day my sister died unexpectedly when I was 10.

No one held me.
No one explained anything.
No one really comforted my grief not because they didn't want to but because they didn't understand what I really needed.

Her burden was never anxiety.
It was aloneness.

Seeing her clearly allowed her to soften for the first time.

She’s the part who never lets me rest — the one who took over when my mother fell into depression and I stepped in to raise my brothers.

Her “pushing” isn’t about discipline.
It’s about unacknowledged exhaustion.

She isn’t ready to unburden yet, so I’m letting her have the space she never had.

The ones who were:

Each one needed presence… not fixing.

✨ What Shifted Inside Me

As I sat with each part, something became clear:

So many of my protectors were born at moments when no one was there to hold me.

When a child receives no comfort, she becomes her own protector:

And she carries these roles into adulthood, still believing she is alone.

But she’s not.

As I sat with these parts, I felt:

THIS is what creates expansion.
Not pushing forward — but clearing what keeps us contracted.

✨ If You Have a Worrier Part Too…

I recorded a tapping audio based on the exact script I used to help my worrier unburden.

If you have a part that:

…this tapping sequence will help her feel less alone.

👉 [Tapping meditation for your worrying part]

Want to Explore Your Own Parts?

Try the IFS 6 F’s

A simple starting place:

Understanding creates safety.
Safety creates the condition to unhook from these parts.
Unhooking creates expansion.

Final Reflection

This work is tender.
It is sacred.
It is powerful.

It has taught me that what expands us is not effort —
but liberating the parts of us that are still carrying yesterday’s burdens.

If you’re feeling the call to do this work too, I’m here.

If your Worrier… or Taskmaster… or Inner Child… has been carrying more than she can hold, I’d love to support you.

Part of what I do is to support women in creating inner harmony, regulate their nervous system, and cultivate grounded self-leadership so they can live from their truest, most empowered self.

If you’re ready to relate to your parts with compassion instead of overwhelm and judgement—and become internally resourced and self-led —

👉 Reply to this email and lets make 2026 your year of expansion.
Let’s explore what’s happening in your system and what freedom could feel like.

To Your Expansion!

Xoxo

Helen

PS Share this with a sister you know could use help with integrating her inner world so that she can step into her most empowered self in 2026.

Helen

✨ Some of The Parts Who Came Forward

She imagines everything that could go wrong — because she learned to worry the day my sister died unexpectedly when I was 10.

No one held me. No one explained anything. No one really comforted my grief not because they didn't want to but because they didn't understand what I really needed.

Her burden was never anxiety. It was aloneness.

Seeing her clearly allowed her to soften for the first time.

She’s the part who never lets me rest — the one who took over when my mother fell into depression and I stepped in to raise my brothers.

Her “pushing” isn’t about discipline. It’s about unacknowledged exhaustion.

She isn’t ready to unburden yet, so I’m letting her have the space she never had.

The ones who were:

betrayed in early relationships

unmothered

unprotected

ashamed of scarcity

terrified of not being taken care of

Each one needed presence… not fixing.

✨ What Shifted Inside Me

As I sat with each part, something became clear:

So many of my protectors were born at moments when no one was there to hold me.

When a child receives no comfort, she becomes her own protector:

the Worrier

the Taskmaster

the Strong One

the Caretaker

the One-Who-Handles-Everything

And she carries these roles into adulthood, still believing she is alone.

But she’s not.

As I sat with these parts, I felt:

my heart open

my nervous system settle

my inner world reorganizing around truth instead of trauma

THIS is what creates expansion. Not pushing forward — but clearing what keeps us contracted.

✨ If You Have a Worrier Part Too…

I recorded a tapping audio based on the exact script I used to help my worrier unburden.

If you have a part that:

spins

anticipates the worst

dumps cortisol

can’t relax

thinks “worry = responsibility”

…this tapping sequence will help her feel less alone.

👉 [Tapping meditation for your worrying part]

Want to Explore Your Own Parts?

Try the IFS 6 F’s

A simple starting place:

Find the part asking for attention

Focus on where it shows up in your body

Flesh Out what it believes and how old it feels

Feel Toward it with curiosity

Befriend it rather than fix it

Fear — Ask: “What are you afraid would happen if you didn’t do this?”

Understanding creates safety. Safety creates the condition to unhook from these parts. Unhooking creates expansion.

Final Reflection

This work is tender. It is sacred. It is powerful.

It has taught me that what expands us is not effort — but liberating the parts of us that are still carrying yesterday’s burdens.

If you’re feeling the call to do this work too, I’m here.

If your Worrier… or Taskmaster… or Inner Child… has been carrying more than she can hold, I’d love to support you.

Part of what I do is to support women in creating inner harmony, regulate their nervous system, and cultivate grounded self-leadership so they can live from their truest, most empowered self.

If you’re ready to relate to your parts with compassion instead of overwhelm and judgement—and become internally resourced and self-led —

👉 Reply to this email and lets make 2026 your year of expansion. Let’s explore what’s happening in your system and what freedom could feel like.

No one held me.
No one explained anything.
No one really comforted my grief not because they didn't want to but because they didn't understand what I really needed.

Her burden was never anxiety.
It was aloneness.

Her “pushing” isn’t about discipline.
It’s about unacknowledged exhaustion.

THIS is what creates expansion.
Not pushing forward — but clearing what keeps us contracted.

Understanding creates safety.
Safety creates the condition to unhook from these parts.
Unhooking creates expansion.

This work is tender.
It is sacred.
It is powerful.

It has taught me that what expands us is not effort —
but liberating the parts of us that are still carrying yesterday’s burdens.

👉 Reply to this email and lets make 2026 your year of expansion.
Let’s explore what’s happening in your system and what freedom could feel like.