Quick version if you’re short on time: It’s Friday! Guess what? It’s Friday Flash Sale Day, and this Friday you get Self-Care and Pleasure, my guided EFT tapping experience for working through the guilt and resistance around resting, receiving support, saying no, and creating space for your own care, for $9 instead of the usual $47. You’ll also receive the new eight-page Your Support Map.

→ Get Self-care and Pleasure $9

Helen

Last week I aggravated an old lower-back injury just before a session with a client.

Since then, my mobility has been very limited. Walking and sitting have been painful, so I have spent most of my time lying down.

The pain has required so much of my attention. Most of my mental energy has gone toward finding a comfortable position and avoiding anything that could aggravate my back further.

That meant I couldn’t work on my business in the way I usually would.

I wasn’t sending emails. I wasn’t promoting anything. I wasn’t creating the things I had planned to create.

And there was so much mind chatter about that.

I’m not being productive.

I should be doing something.

I’m losing time.

Nothing is happening in my business.

My body needed rest. My mind was still measuring the value of each day by how much I had produced.

I had to do a lot of tapping around that.

I tapped on the anxiety about everything that wasn’t getting done. I tapped on the discomfort of spending another day lying down. I listened to the part of me that believed I needed to be productive for the day to count.

Resting can be physically necessary and still feel emotionally uncomfortable.

We live in a culture that values speed and productivity. We learn to measure a good day by how much we completed and how many things we crossed off the list.

Even when our bodies require care, our minds can continue working through everything we should be doing.

This experience also brought me face-to-face with another part of self-care.

Receiving support.

Different friends offered different kinds of help.

A friend went grocery shopping for me.

One friend offered to send me distance healing.

Another offered me money for groceries.

Other friends asked, “What can I do for you?”

Receiving is one of my growth edges. It is something I am committed to becoming good at.

So I allowed myself to say yes.

I said yes to the healing. I received the money for groceries. I allowed someone else to shop for me. When friends asked what I needed, I let myself consider the question and give them an honest answer.

All of this felt uncomfortable in my body.

There was a point when I could feel that I had reached what I call my receiving limit.

People were offering care, and my body was beginning to contract around how much I had already received.

I felt the vulnerability of allowing other people to see that I needed help. Thoughts about being a burden came up. The capable part of me wanted to return quickly to handling everything herself.

So I tapped on that too.

I tapped on the discomfort of needing help and the fear of receiving too much. I worked with the part of me that wanted to repay everything immediately so I wouldn’t feel indebted to anyone.

As I tapped, I felt more space in my body to allow the care in.

This experience reminded me that self-care includes our ability to receive support.

Many women are generous givers. We know how to notice what other people need. We offer our time, attention, encouragement, food, knowledge, money, and care.

Receiving asks us to acknowledge that we have needs too.

It requires us to allow someone to see where we feel tired, uncertain, overwhelmed, or unable to manage everything alone.

That vulnerability can activate so many old stories:

I should be able to do this myself.

I don’t want to inconvenience anyone.

What if they think I’m needy?

What will I owe them afterward?

Other people need help more than I do.

Perhaps you recognize some of these thoughts.

For generations, women have learned to connect our value with how much we can give and how little we need in return.

We became skilled at caring for everyone around us. Along the way, many of us disconnected from our own need for care.

These beliefs affect our relationship with rest too.

When your sense of value is connected to what you accomplish, lying down can feel wasteful. Pleasure can feel indulgent. Asking for help can feel like evidence that you have failed to manage your life properly.

Those responses can live in your body even when you consciously believe that everyone deserves rest and support.

This is why I created Self-Care and Pleasure.

Self-Care and Pleasure is a guided EFT tapping experience for women who want to create more room for care, support, rest, and enjoyment in their lives.

Inside the course, I help you understand why self-care and pleasure can feel so difficult, even when you know how much you need them.

You will:

→ Learn how to use EFT tapping to calm your stress response

→ Explore how our culture connects women’s value with productivity and self-sacrifice

→ Tap on the guilt and resistance that arise when you rest or choose yourself

→ Work through the fear of disappointing people when you say no

→ Tap on the anxiety and vulnerability connected to asking for help

→ Create practical ways to bring more self-care and pleasure into your daily life

You will also receive the Self-Care and Pleasure companion handout, which helps you follow the tapping process and explore the beliefs that may be interfering with your ability to care for yourself.

And I have added a new eight-page resource called Your Support Map.

Sometimes we know we need help and struggle to name the kind of support that would make a difference.

Your Support Map will help you:

→ Recognize what receiving support activates in your mind and body

→ Identify your emotional, practical, financial, professional, and self-care needs

→ Choose the three forms of support that would help you most right now

→ Turn one of those needs into a clear request

→ Create a new story about receiving

→ Use a brief EFT tapping practice when asking for help feels vulnerable

You can return to these resources whenever guilt appears while you rest, when you need help and struggle to ask, or when saying no feels difficult.

Self-Care and Pleasure is normally $47.

Today, as part of my Friday Flash Sale, you can get the complete course, the companion handout, and Your Support Map for $9.

→ Get Self-Care and Pleasure for $9

Perhaps your body has been asking you to slow down while your mind continues pushing you to produce.

Maybe you know you need support and feel your body contract whenever someone offers it.

Bring those responses into this experience. Let me guide you through the tapping so you can begin creating more space for rest, support, care, and pleasure.

→ Get Self-Care and Pleasure for $9

Helen

P.S. What happens in your body when someone offers to help you? Do you allow the support in, or do you immediately feel the urge to say, “I’m fine”? Your answer may show you where your receiving limit lives.

P.P.S. If you know a woman who has been carrying everything herself, please forward this email to her. She may need a reminder that receiving support is part of self-care.